(photo from Holi celebration in India)
Well, there's a bunch of stuff to update and upload from India, but since today's society seems to be more and more about the Now, that I should upload stuff when it happens, in this very moment...
I can't do that. I live an active life, and even though I try I cannot update on my every move.
That said - it's time to update on my move!
I'M BACK IN SWEDEN!
At this moment I'm at my parents place, repacking. As you can imagine, being a travelling artist it's very very convenient to have relatives with a huge storage, to keep all the show clothes to change every season or so.
Now I will be in Stockholm, party in Karlstad, studying to get a driver's license. I figured it's time to get one, for many reasons, one of them being; I can drive a scooter now = not afraid of motorized vehicles anymore!
And being back in this country, all of the sudden I'm faced with many choices.
See - I'm a person of many talents, and I love many things. All the things I do I love and enjoy differently, but in basically the same amount, and I cannot live without any of them.
And as a freelance artist, my choices are endless. I can (if I have the money, or somehow can find a way to live for free) choose not to work for a while, I can choose to search in panic for a long-term contract, I can.. well, a lot of stuff.
SO now, coming back from India, where I had a few gigs but not so much (mostly recovering my body), I don't have that much work.
I got a contract job in Turkey, may get another one in Greece, but all that is so long term, committing to it is HUGE because that means the other stuff I don't practice will be forgotten by me, or potential clients!
Since there's already a few festivals, gigs and events I will be participating in in Sweden, it's hard to choose if I should stay, WHAT I should focus on if I stay, or just... what will life be in general.
Right now I can/want to:
Also weighing in my on/off relationship I would love to fix, the fact that I don't have a steady home and really want to feel safe for a while, and also that I want to do all of these things at some point in my life.... and the courses (theater, choreography etc.) might only be this year and never be repeated again!
So, what happens now?
I'll apply to all the courses and the school, all the jobs and gigs available, and then decide what feels more right to do right now.
I guess I'll do it all eventually, but have to find a way to feel somehow what's most important at this very moment.
If you have any advice on how to make major life decisions when you seriously want to do it all at the same time, please comment!
For now I'll be in Stockholm.
If anything changes, I'll let you know.
Love and dance,
Time to be vulnerable!
Since I've began immersing myself into the Tantric world, and I can't afford having another website, I figured why not include those things on my blog as well?
Anything that has to do with my life has a place here, I think, as long as I make it more or less interesting for you to read.
So, what do I mean by this headline?
Well, right now I'm in an Ayurveda (traditional Indian medicine) retreat in Central Goa, in India. Detoxing.
I say that I'm here to take a well deserved break and heal my body, but really, I feel stuck.
I think this is how I'm supposed to feel - since I always do SO MANY THINGS AND AT THE SAME TIME (IF POSSIBLE), no wonder I feel this way when being in a place where all I can do is:
I really want to do stuff and be creative!! But that is a part of the challenge - to learn the sweetness of doing nothing.
"Dolce far niente" as my Italian friends here say.
Which brings me to my point, the basis for the headline.
Accepting the Feminine in me.
To give some background; we all have masculine and feminine within us, the masculine is the driving, logical, powerful force, and the feminine is the flowing, adapting, creating, feeling energy.
IF you want to read more, click here:
Don't be scared by the spiritual approach! It can be translated to any philosophy, in its own way.
For so long I have struggled with being weak, resting, letting creativity flow, and major trust issues.
And feminine energy is not "being a doormat/masochist/weak" as many may perceive. The feminine is not inferior to the masculine!
It is the strength in being vulnerable, in being creative, trusting, receiving, soft, and empathetic, collaborating and intuitive.
While my intuition and empathy are quite well developed, the crookedness that affects so many women today had gotten me too - being strong and independent, to the point where I grew a huge need for control.
Even the most simple things like letting my friend cook for me I could not allow; no matter how hard I tried to relax, flow and do my thing, I would still be there poking around, giving advice and throwing things in the soup. Literally.
Because who knows better than me, really? HAHA, stupid brain.
Never mind that letting someone else do me a favor would allow me to relax and have time for other things - if it was not done my way, I could not relax.
Food, packing, makeup, travel plans, you name it! I had the need to know and be in check of everything, because, well what if something goes wrong??
While it has taken me to great heights of building a career quickly of only doing what I love, being disciplined and driven, learning new things, developing and growing quickly, when this masculine energy is not needed and it's time for a break, I can't stop.
No wonder my body is screaming at me...
So; what would you say is the basis of this utterly exhausting behavior?
As the roots to most major problems in the western brains, bodies and spirits, fear is a great damaging force that puts everything out of balance.
(But that's a whole other post, it's a major topic!)
It's also the reason I work solo; so I don't have to depend on other people.
Being independent is great, growing up fast and being able to bend for all the crap the world throws at you is fantastic, but as one can see by my example; constant micro-managing is really depleting.
Surprisingly, this does not happen in professional relationships! Only in daily life.
It gets in the way of intimacy and trust in my personal relationships, it does not allow me to receive help, I can't trust people enough to even do the smallest thing correctly.
And all of this because of fear of being hurt... fear of being alone, fear of being judged for being weak and needing help (since I was taught through my Russian perfectionism that one should only be strong all the time), fear of being hurt because I lay my trust in someone and if they do it wrong... I will blame myself for trusting them. I will punish myself even more, "stupid me I'm not worthy of care, I should really just deal on my own".
Because it's much easier to depend on yourself, especially when I have to do that all the time already or I will DIE.
As seen in photo below..
But as it has been brought to my attention - without trust for the unknown, and for people in personal relationships with me, it will be a struggle.
Because neither I or them will feel good if I keep being so frikkin' uptight and in my Masculine.
I have even asked my partner to put me in my place, so something would force me to relax!
I need to accept the feminine, graceful, receiving parts of me. Or find them.
Allow my ego to die, for the sake of balance in life. Allow people in.
So here I am, getting massages and treatments every day, my every need being catered, and I don't even have to pour my own tea in the cup... wow, it is so hard to learn to receive!
It started with deep gratitude and being able to receive the fact that my friend is sponsoring me to go to this retreat (thank you so so so much Michael!!! ) Am I really worthy?
Of course I am! But making myself believe that is not easy.
And now, after drinking huge amounts of medicated ghee (clarified butter) over a few days, getting all sorts of detox treatments making icky stuff come out of me (sorry, t.m.i.), and being massaged, I'm starting to break down into softness.
My hard circus body is softer and more gentle; the therapists have gotten through the outer layer and now I can feel all the tensions underneath, all the muscle knots, all the pain is flaring up and moving to the surface, the consequences of overactive masculinity and stubbornness!
Traumas, fear, injuries, I feel it all and oh my, it's a lot...
How could I even walk around with all this inside of me?! (shout-out to circus people - go get a bunch of massages!!)
And as my muscles and tendons are loosening up, as the toxins are leaving my body, I give up.
I may have questioned the Ayurveda doctor one too many times, but I actually managed to receive help! And IT WORKED!!
For so long I have wanted to awaken my feminine more through dance and exterior sources, and while it has worked a bit, this really brought me down.
I feel energy coursing through my body, I feel alive, I feel graceful and open to new possibilities and allowing myself to trust my partner!
And as silly as it may be - taking care of my hair and skin makes me feel even more reborn and feminine. Scrubs are so underrated... haha.
I may have achieved this through only breath-work and re-wiring my brain, but my body is so grateful right now I want to cry...!
Allowing myself to do nothing... and it's okay to feel bored, to be quiet... it is the space in between the notes that makes the music.
I hope my masculine does not have to protect me anymore, I get out of here on Friday so let's see.
Can't wait to try out my newly found powers!!
And to show you all the grace and beauty that comes from surrendering to the music.
Love and dance!
Haha, it's more than a week after new year, and more than a month after my last post.
Greetings from India!
To be more exact, Divaya Island in the state of Goa.
After Israel I went to Egypt, I had a long post about it but never got to publish it; my computer broke down.
Then I was in Stockholm for 3 weeks to work my butt off; one of my christmas shows is here:
Well, enough excuses - I'm here, I'm back, I'm well and happy and life iiiiiis beautiful despite it's issues!
How are you doing?
So an update on my India trip - I came here because it's way cheaper to live and train here than it is to live and train in Sweden, and I can work and read books and do courses and so much more stuff over here.
More time, more opportunities for work and creative projects, and so much better weather!
The first 3 weeks I spent with my boyfriend and mother in Kovalam, just outside of Trivandrum in south of Kerala, the state that's sometimes called "God's own country" or "Home of Ayurveda" (The Indian medicine that I studied and will continue learning).
Just swimming, enjoying the food and the weather, going to a few treatments and training on the black sand beach.
Here are some photos below:
Note on the photos at the bottom: One evening (Christmas eve) I was training on the beach, and there came people.. then more people.. until I had a huge audience.
Then after I finished they all (all men, only 2 women) attacked me wanting to take pictures with me. MANY pictures, and they didn't care if others were in the photo, they just wanted to get a photo of me, haha! It was unbelievable!
Just before Christmas my mother left, so me and the boyfriend took a train to Kannur, to then later take a bus out to the far off villages more inland of north Kerala, to visit a nature reserve. Breathe some fresh air, explore the nature and feel like a celebrity in the village we were in (the guy who works at the front desk of the hotel actually found me on the internet, and took selfies to show his friends I was there! Crazy.
Here's some photos of that:
After that, we took the bus back to Kannur and in the morning a train to Mangalore.
There we were awaited at a hotel which was booked for both of us, to do a performance at New Years Eve the next day!
But then, talking to the guy that booked me over a month ago, things were a bit rocky.
I was not given the proper information, he said his friend was meeting me that same evening, then the next morning, and when I finally met his friend the following day (31st january) it became clear:
Turns out his friend was the main organiser, and the party had been cancelled.
Apparently the owner of the venue had said no at the last minute, and people were calling constantly asking what's going on. They were under huge loss.
BUT, by some magic of the New Year spirits, he had got me another gig at a different party!
So I packed, we had lunch at his place, I bought an outfit for the party (I have this tradition where every New Years I get a new dress), and we went!
Here are some photos from the event:
At this moment I'm in an Ayurveda (traditional Indian medicine) retreat, and I've been here since 3rd of January.
Update on that coming soon.
I will get going more with writing and posting, but as you may understand from my absence and from my latest blogs, I need this time to myself. To detox and recharge.
Love and dance!
ISTA festival of Israel. International School of Temple Arts. I just came out of there, a few days ago… amazing!
I was invited there by one of the organizers who was facilitating in Ängsbacka Tantra festival in Sweden this summer, an immediately agreed to come!
I was crazy excited, and longing for it for all this time up until I came to Israel. Singe beginning of August I have been sick in bronchitis, which also triggered sinusitis and inflammation of the vocal cords. While in Israel I went to the doctor, and found out I had already damaged a bit of my lungs and was in the danger zone. With a bunch of medicine it got better, but not fully well, bringing me also a lot of side effects.
I got prescription for new medicines, but decided I won’t take them so they will not interfere with ISTA festival.
So I arrive at the festival, still quite sick (and disgusting haha), immediately diving deep with a burlesque dance workshop! It went AMAZING, judging by other peoples reaction and comments such as “best start to the festival”, “so much fun, you’re such an exciting, personal and good teacher” and “It made me open up and appreciate my body more” really made me warm and happy inside.
Later that evening and the next day I really didn’t do much… was feeling too sick to do anything but go to lectures or talk to people, but it’s not so “but”, I really met some magical intelligent people!! Just amazing, everyone you meet in these gatherings…
Friday I had my Kama Sutra workshop. Waking up early for a photoshoot and feeling still blah, but standing posing with a blocked nose in the desert was still amazing.
Kama Sutra workshop went… so good. Soooo good!.
Not only did I get good feedback (hope it doesn’t sound like I’m bragging here, no?) from the people in the workshop on the spot, but it felt very good for me, I had an amazing assistant (got one last minute before class, faith, ha!), and also people who walked up to me outside of the workshop until the end of the festival, saying how much fun it was and how much they gained from it, physically and emotionally.
It was so beautiful to see, and to receive such love and gratitude really did a lot! Thank you, so so much for this opportunity to share my work!!
So, later that day I wanted to go to another workshop, but instead was sharing with a medicine man from USA, and … I just cracked.
I started to share all sorts of things, from now recently and from earlier, everything just pouring out of me like a river (of snot)! I cried, sneezed, cried a bit more in different ways, talked, and cried again…
Over an hour of sharing, and the conclusion... I need to ask for help. For my soul, my feelings, my body, I can do it all on my own but outside support is needed.
And I started to ask for help.
So after all this text I want to express my gratitude.
Gratitude for my amazing life, and all the opportunities it brings! How CRAZY is it that I travel to facilitate workshops halfway across the world?! WOW! I am so lucky, but I’ve worked for it, so, I really am grateful.
Grateful for Big River who let me pour out all my emotional crap. Grateful for Maor who gave me herbal medicine, for the musician who stayed in the same room as me and the medicine he gave, for the herbal pills another facilitator gave me and just for all the support, love and appreciation I received.
It made the rest of that day so heavy, but the next day was magical.
I had healed, so quickly!
Not fully, I still had a bit of a sore throat (still do), but I could breathe fully, no cough, no congestion… I was FREE!!! Finally, after three months of disease I felt loads better than I had all this time, I was so happy I could cry! And I did cry from joy, a little bit.
Just feeling all the love and care from people in combination with all the herbal magic has finally set me free!
The festival ended beautifully, with my bellydance workshop in the morning, many hugs and new friends and contacts, invitations and appreciations, wise words and stories, and again, I am so thankful to be invited to facilitate at such an amazing event and be part of this huge community/family/whatever of beautiful people.
And now, writing this sitting in a restaurant in Dahab in Egypt (I took a short trip, was already close by, why not… it’s warm and cheap, walla!), I have to express gratitude for myself.
Life does not simply happen, I make it happen.
And I have been so strong to endure many hardships of what life throws at me, of work, relationships, unfortunate events, we have to give ourselves love and credit for that.
The moon is beautiful reflecting in the Red Sea, and it feels like I will cry again from joy.
Thank you for the love, we all really need human connection, don’t forget it.
We all need love, appreciation and safe space to be vulnerable.
Thank you for accepting my vulnerability.
We all need help sometimes.
Love and dance <3
Nothing fancy, just an update on how I'm doing in the Holy Land!
Still sick in bronchitis, unfortunately, despite all the "wonders" western medicine put on me.
Six different wonders actually in form of sprays, tablets and inhalors, and after finishing all the medicines after one week I'm now back to square 4 out of 10. I was at 1 when I started the medicines, so, It's a progression, but seems like there should be more of a progress and that by the end of the week I started feeling worse again, and now, even worse without medicine.
No, not really.
But at least I scraped myself off for enough time to go see my friends in Tel-Aviv, and felt a bit better! I've been to the beach, I met all the friends I met here last time and in India, and just some social interaction really energized me.
There is SO MANY fabric shops here!!
I've bought lots of lycra (UV reactive also) and tulle for new costumes, I'll buy much more soon and make a bunch of beauuuutiful things!
I'ts so many things to choose from here, I don'w know where to start... Usually I just go into the store, see what's there and then design; here I can do the other way around, and it's insane!!
But now I've got to go, will write more soon, my friend who's driving is waiting for me.
We're going to ISTA (international sexual tantric arts) festival here in the desert!!
I'm very excited, I'll be teaching three different workshops and it will be so much fun!
Diving deep and connecting with many amazing talented intelligent people, it will be just amazing <3
Except the weather... it's 22 celcius in the day and 12 at night... ugh.
Love and dance <3
I've been away for a while, haven't I ....
My apologies. Again.
I thought it would be easier now to focus and write stuff, because I truly love writing! But in between all the jobs and gigs I've had in Stockholm the past six weeks I've been making costumes, emailing, or just travelling from thing to thing for hours.. Or catching up on my sleep, haha.
I need to be honest, and hopefully my honesty won't cost me anything, because there is strength in vunerability also, right?
I have been very ill.
After Ängsbacka Tantra Festival I got a strong fever, because of all the probing in my psyche and all the germs going around, haha. I was coughing and had a sore throat, all phlegmy and gross.
I got better after a couple of days and went on working at Forest Star Festival, still with sore throat and cough.
Moving on to rainy Netherlands and Psy-Fi festival, still coughing.
It got better after three days rest in Belgium, but then continued in Paris.. and London.. and wors again when I got back to Stockholm and work now.
I've been teaching circus to kids, performing at private events and nightclubs, making stuff, doing computer work, being super active and all the things I love!!
While being really sick.
And at times it got better, when I was resting for only two days and fasting a bit I was almost well (thanks to a special someone).
It turns out - had I only had one (1) week of bed rest and tea, I would be well and fully alive!
But I never gave myself that, and in addition didn't let myself sleep enough.
So now I have sinus inflammation, and chronic asthmatic bronchitis.
And I'm sitting here, in this beautiful top floor apartment in Tel-Aviv, Israel, and suffering from all the weird side effets of modern medicine.
It was nessecary, because I have no time to treat myself naturally, and I had already done severe damage to my lungs because of not enough sleep and proper food while stressing about not being enough.
Now I'm suffering from anxiety, indegestion, stomach pain, nausea, dizziness, swollen body, dry mouth, and the other side effects the pills and stuffs are giving me besides the symptoms I already have.
But I'm no longer choking from cough, hurray!
So even if you are an entrepreneur and constantly working, (seriously, everything is work) we all must rest sometimes.
It's not nessecarily how much I've worked, but the poor structure and the not saying NO to some things to have several days in a row off, to get well, that drove me to this.
Trust your body, listen to it, so you won't have to take weird pills and inhalors.
Please take care of yourself!
Because I am, and soon I will be back with new life and energy.
I'm almost well now, only a couple days left.
I deserve to be well.
Love and dance <3
As I’m sitting in the car on my way to Stockholm, trying to gather my thoughts after all the rambling questions from my mom this morning and all the sketches for new costumes in my head and the radio playing and my father talking about everything in the car and my O button on the computer that’s crooked, I think why do I even try to focus. I need to be alone, to rest, recharge.
Then I remember I haven’t slept properly, visiting the parents is always stressful, so I guess the question is why in the name of all that is holy I go to them after going to such a powerful retreat as a Tantra festival.
Or, well I can’t remember exactly but almost every time, at least this summer, after a powerful transformation I somehow ended up at their home, repacking my stuff because since I travel so much most of my artist warderobe is there, my trapeze, and also the shame of “you haven’t seen your parents in a while” creeps up on you, because you’re raised Russian and guilt is really a special thing in our culture.
Now I sort of had to go, because my dentist is where my address is.
But that’s not what I wanted to talk about!
I wanted to highlight all the crazy and beautiful moments, and share a bit, as I did with my dentist this morning.
If you want to see photos from the festival, I shared them on my FB page: Ronyah - Performing arts.
Link in several places on my website!
So, I will try keep it short, since I already wasted two paragraphs on describing my current situation.
It all started Friday, after I came back from training in the circus hall, creating the last of the contortion dance I was gonna perform at the Tantra Festival, finishing the choreography in one (1) hour!! BOOM!
So, met my new friend from a massage workshop and my vegan friend Lia, as well as the man I found in a group on facebook that was gonna give us a ride to Malmö, from where we planned to take the train or bus to Copenhagen.
Lots of deep diving and conversations on the way, our driver turned out to be a beautiful and very wise soul! We shared all sorts of deep issues and secrets, it was lovely.
When arriving in Malmö and eating some falafel, the driver offered us to stay at his place so the friend from massage workshop (let’s call him Ted) didn’t have to sleep in a tent somewhere random in Copenhagen. We happily agreed, slept at the drivers’ ENORMOUS apartment, and all had breakfast together at 6 in the morning. I thrive on moments like this!
He gave us a ride to the train, and off we went.
Arriving to the festival everyone got bands and settled down in the room provided for us, thank you so much Sahajananda for that! And for inviting me!
I performed a slow tribal bellydance at the opening ceremony, and then went off to the next workshop.
Beware now, weird stuff coming.
It’s hard to say what Tantra is really about, I have many
Thing is, I barley remember anything from the festival besides the highlights, which were very powerful!
I remember the conscious touch workshop, where me and Ted locked eyes and I started trembling all the way to the core, through his eyes, through mine, through my body all the way down to my feet I was shaking…
How it felt as if I had known him forever, and this was just how it’s supposed to be.
I remember two lectures with Advaita Stoian from Romania, a very experienced and wise man in both science and spirituality, I’ll make another blogpost about the notes I got at his lectures!
There’s clear memory and a looong video and photos of my Acrobatic Kama Sutra workshop, oh how much fun we all had!! I got such nice feedback and compliments from the participants, feels like I’m vibrating with joy and gratitude! So many people attended. Wow, just, wow… And I’m really proud of how well everyone did on the actual techniques, haha.
I remember the “Unlocking Extacy” workshop, and how at the end the facilitating woman wanted us to share, and most of us shook our heads, embarrassed, blushing, afraid to share… and so am I, so if you’re curious go do it yourselves! (Fully clothed, might I add)
The performance that was supposed to happen in the lunch break turned into a circle with a bunch of women I invited to dance some Baladi with me, and the one the next day was me being filmed with a steadycam and a small audience to cheer.
The closing ceremony was the highlight performance though, I had worked hard and gathered so much emotion into the show, can’t wait to show you the videos.
I am so incredibly honored and grateful to be invited to such a beautiful event, to teach and share my performances, the power of Shakti with everyone, thank you so much!!
I grow and bloom more and more every day, and all the things happening to me… it’s so hard to explain at this point, it has to settle in layers first before I can do it more clearly.
But I am in deep gratitude, and I feel at home!
Love and dance,
Don’t you think it’s so suitable that this post comes after the one about detox? Hahahah!
A lot of people I know as soon as I start talking about my love for cooking or ask them if they cook, it’s 99% the answer “I love to cook, but not for myself!” Continuing the conversation with elaborations like “it’s just not fun when nobody can enjoy it” or “I never take the time when it’s just me” or “I don’t have time”
I have… so much to say about this...!
Not sure if you notice what’s wrong with these answers, but we only have to look a layer or two deeper through the cake to see the issue.
The fact is, that whether we realize it or not, the basis/root cause for these answers is; I don’t prioritize myself enough to make the time, or I don’t love myself enough.
In the end, it’s all about self-love.
If you love yourself, you take the time to do the things you need for yourself consciously, and also the things you perhaps don’t think you need but trust me, you do.
Some of the best acts of self-love we can do is not taking ourselves on a shopping spree even though we already are searching back pockets for pennies, or any of that sort, but to make our daily life and the things we already have to do as an act of self-love.
You have to shower (hopefully), right? So do it consciously. Love every inch of your body, rub it smoothly with soap or scrub, experience the sensations, the water flowing down, feel your body relax, be in the moment… just enjoy it fully, I promise you the shower will probably not be longer for it, but definitely more enjoyable and makes a bigger difference in your overall being than just making you clean.
Same with food
You have to eat! So make it a celebration, perhaps not every time but make an effort! You, your body, mind, and spirit, DESERVE that you take the time to purchase, prepare and calmly eat good food that will nourish your body. (Or, if not calmly eat, then perhaps at least make it nutritious.)
The food is your medicine, your fuel, you literally become your thoughts and what you eat so make sure that what you put in your body is not only healthy but also makes you happy.
It’s fun to cook when there’s no pressure, and when is there less pressure then when you only cook for yourself, right? Perhaps you’re a perfectionist in other aspects of life, but in the kitchen when it’s just for you, it’s not that hard.
And also – how do you expect to cook well for others, to bring happiness and delicious food for them when you never practice by yourself?
Or, how do you bring happiness to others or do your passions well if what you eat does not make you happy or more alive?
It is not only for you, but for others. I’m saying this because somehow it’s easier for us to accept doing something for others rather then for yourselves. Isn’t it a bit sad? We have to spend all our time with ourselves, so should we not take care of ourselves as much as we can, to become the vibrant, joyful individuals we truly are?
Take care, be present, be mindful, and eat your greens. Take time to eat, plan well, eat dessert without a shameful cell in your body because you deserve all the love and good fuel there is!
You are worthy of love
Love and dance <3
So, many of you probably know the feelings of detoxing. Or, the feelings when you’re missing someone. Or when you’re hungry, everyone has been hungry right??
When you experience any of these feelings or those similar to it, it is essentially the feeling of loss. Something good or bad it does not matter, but it feels like something is missing, something is not enough, the feeling of need to have it to be happy or move on with our lives! It can both be a beautiful and terrifying feeling, both rejuvenating and depleting, and when that feeling goes deeper it’s even more intense…
I was gonna write a post about me visiting 4 countries in 2,5 weeks – Netherlands performing at Psy-Fi festival and challenging myself with the 3rd festival in a row, Belgium for a couple of days relaxing, hitchhiking to Paris for one crazy day, and then hitchhiking further on to London for even deeper spiritual development, in the presence of this intense city and people who have a deep impact on me. All of these experiences were beautiful, crazy, and so good for my personal development!
But this being the journey directly after Tantra Festival at Ängsbacka (one of the most intense experiences of my life!), and getting a horrible cold before working at Forest Star festival (right before heading directly to the airport to fly to Holland), just made it even more intense.
Believe this or not, my consciousness has been expanding more and more every day on this journey, these past 5 weeks, understanding life more and understanding the fact that we have absolutely no idea what we are doing! We just got to find our way and roll with it, do what does most good and most fun to us and those around.
My empathetic abilities and intuition increased, I have gained more knowledge of things, and just… wow it’s just too much to process. You’ve got to be here to experience it.
And now, I’m having spiritual detox symptoms.
I can’t just be talking about all the positive glittery stuff in life, right? Have to mention and be open about the rough patches too, and this is merely a small part of it.
I’m always good with detoxes (except rawfood diet, gave up on that after 3,5 days, it was awful… lol), especially the shorter more intense ones. I do get symptoms but I know that out of pain and suffering arises all the good stuff, and I always pull through. Yet this time, I have such a hard time!
As soon as I landed in Gothenburg from London, I felt irritation. I was angry at everything and everyone, so annoyed for the slightest misstep, it was so intense! I was shaking with fury, over seemingly nothing!
On and off I have been having sudden spurts of emotions, mood swings, crazy ideas, my memory is worse, stomach is weird and I’m still coughing. Still, the process of me getting rid of my fears, my old prejudices and views, my traumas, is still going…!
Of course I'm still doing my performances and job very well, but inside there's a chaos.
According to the more experienced spiritual practitioners, this is the body trying to get rid of everything that is wrong for it, everything that is ego and no longer serves me. But my oh my it is hard!
And the weirdest thing is, I have been craving meat.
I’ve been vegetarian with occasional seafood fish for about a year, and yet now suddenly without any shame in my body I had cravings for:
When one is detoxing or just really hungry, you just grab the first thing there is! Because you crave, because your body doesn’t like this feeling, you need to fix it, cover it up, numb it!
And that’s exactly what’s happening now, I have such a hard time stopping it.
My body is fighting a poison!
It’s like the old me is hating this change, like she is pushing against, fighting anything new or mind-expanding or better for me with stupid never-ending stream of stupid thoughts and occasionally shutting down my brain so I can get an extra piece of butterscotch without even noticing. The new me has to fight the old one, it wasn’t enough to go through all these changes, now I have to be back in my home base and keep fighting her?! Was all this time and digging with both hands in my wounds not enough??
If you who are reading this can relate to or understand what I’m going through and wish to support or help out, please leave a comment or mail or anything. It would be greatly appreciated!
Meanwhile I will eat some watermelon instead of reaching for that chocolate.
And I will rally, of course I will! It's already getting better after two weeks of this roller-coaster (and no I know you're thinking it but it's not hormones), and I just have to push through it as always.
I will stay true to myself, and do what I know in my heart is best for me and my self development.
Love and dance <3
This is a post I made on my FB page, and it got such good response I figured I’d copy it here, elaborate it a bit and then actually tell you how it actually ended. These honest stories from the heart are important, I really do feel like sharing and expressing, in hope to rekindle more people to challenge themselves in their daily lives.
So here it goes.
For the past few years I have been challenging myself, to develop as a person and to be as limitless as possible. I collected all my courage, and every time I was faced with an uncomfortable situation, thing, event or animal, I would go for it. Because fears and discomfort are what limits and pushes us down, to face those no matter how big or small really forces one to grow and learn!
And as soon we start doing that, we realise how many tiny stupid fears and "moments of overthinking" we have.
I have faced my fear of deep water, of jumping into deep water from high up, my fear of driving anything with an engine (in India, I might add, some of the craziest roads in the world!), fear of speaking to strangers about weird stuff, fear of speaking into a microphone in front of hundreds of people without any preparation, etc...
And on the other side, you see it's not so bad, because the fear is only coming up to the task itself, and people and you don't really judge you as much as you build it up to be in your head, haha!
Then it becomes easy. Beautiful, even.
It has made me learn and grow tremendously, everyone should do it!!
To add to this I have started to be much more open about private things that might be perceived as awkward, instead of walking around worrying I would say stuff like why I’m insecure at times, how uncomfortable a situation is, that I ate too much garlic, or “can we PLEASE talk about something with substance? I really don’t like small talk!”
It may seem harsh to some, but saying things as honestly and as “unfiltered” as possible is perhaps easy to misunderstand, but is great to make one realize that everyone are okay with whatever it is you find so uncomfortable. And if they aren’t, well, then they’re just not your kind of people.
(but please, don’t go saying all sorts of mean things to people, try and see the bright side of things!)
You do you!!!
Yet I have a few discomforts left (and perhaps discover new ones as I go deeper), and one of these is….
the fear of speaking French.
Sounds stupid, I know, thank you.
I took French in 4rd grade, private lessons, and learned quite quickly. Then I went to France with my dad a couple years later, and had forgotten nearly everything. He, and I'm not kidding, pushed me and pressured me FOR YEARS after of how disappointed he was that I, a 12-13 year old girl, could not be his guide in France in their native language. What!? Who does that??
Both my parents throughout 8-9th grade were asking me how French class was going, and in the end I felt so pressured I was petrified every time I attempted to talk.
So I understand most of French (they speak French and I speak English to them and it works), I can basically read in French, but I cannot respond because my grammar is awful and my fear of myself and everyone judging me is so great that I cannot connect the different words together...
My throat closes up, voice gets quiet, shy, and mind runs wild and crazy.
Every time I try I blame myself for failing, and that blame is overwhelming…
So here I am, for only ONE day in Paris, and It's time to face my ridiculous fear xD
Wish me luck.
So, how did this story continue?
After visiting the Louvre (photos at the bottom) I went off to explore more of the city. Challenged my French buying some vegetables and fruits, making it through the street stand without a single word of English. Trust me it was not easy…
Then I went to Moulin Rouge, just out of curiosity, and through answering in half English half broken French the guard explained to me about the shows, how to get the email address to apply for a job as a dancer, etc. He did it in French, I proudly understood it all and he complimented my pronunciation despite the grammatical errors. Hurray!
Further on I attempt to buy bread and more stuff in French, going up to Montmartre and exploring the neighborhood, the touristy areas and in search for more things to see.
The rest of my day is not really relevant to the story, so fast forward to next morning;
I’m standing at a crossroad, bag at my side, holding a sign to hitchhike further on my journey.
I had hitchhiked from Antwerpen in Belgium to Paris, so of course I was gonna continue the same adventurous way!
After a drunk man gave me a penny thinking my sign meant… I don’t even know, and standing dancing for a few more minutes trying not to pee myself, a car stopped with a handsome French man.
He could give me a ride to the Airport because he lived nearby, great! I could hitchhike on further to the big road further north-west from there!
Getting in the car, putting down my stuff, and I realize this man, despite claiming he spoke a little English, didn’t know anything. At all. Except perhaps yes and no.
Anxiety grabbing me by the ribs, I sat there trying to calm down, explaining that I did understand French but didn’t speak because of my bad grammar. He said something about the road, asked if I want a shower, and I sat there almost petrified just mumbling some weird answers and shaking my head.
He continued conversing after a (what seemed a looooong) awkward silence, saying he sometimes picked up hitchhikers, and that he just came from work. I had just settled in the increasingly warm seat, and asked him with the best pronunciation, where he worked. He did say a few words I could not comprehend, so I just made a weird question mark face and he had to try explain with simpler words. I felt better now, that he also perhaps felt handicapped communicating to me, even though he said he lives in France, works here and doesn’t really need English!
And so, the conversation sparked!
The more difficult words I could just tap into google translate and try tell him, puzzling together a cohesive sentence, without a doubt with quite bad grammar but I didn’t care anymore! I felt so alive, so full of enthusiasm, as the conversation got more personal, deeper and “in my realm” I could feel even more comfortable.
He was telling me about how he is 37, doesn’t really like his job but is divorced with 2 kids he only sees one day a week because he works so much. And yet, he has to provide for them despite having so little time. He has been working since he was 18, at construction sites and such, and in a few years he hopes to be in management. I was asking him why he wouldn’t change his life, that it’s not too late, that he really should try and at least find time for his kids or something else he loves doing! Otherwise he will just be mad at himself for wasting so many years.
He kept saying I could say so because I’m young and alone, and he is stuck, and I insisted nothing is yet hopeless. Perhaps he could change his life when the kids were 18?? No, he answered, by then I will be manager and with very good pay, why leave now?
So, when will you rest?
When I die, he responds.
The conversation got very deep, and I found myself understanding words I never even learned, intrigued by his view of life and feeling deeply sorry for him. He was unhappy, but comfortable in his unhappiness. The discomfort of leaving the job even part time seemed greater than the suffering it caused him now.
He asked me if I wanted to come for a coffee, that he had to sleep in an hour after working night but he would put me on the road afterwards, but I was in a hurry to get to London and asked him to drop me off.
I have him my card and a hug, waving goodbye. Went to the bathroom in the Charles Gaulle airport, and walked onwards towards the big road to find a place to stand and hitchhike.
After that I felt free to speak my French, free of the pressure me and my parents had put on me, free of the fear and discomfort, and I got to London later that night.
We so often get stuck in our old ways and patterns, we get comfortable doing the same route, we don’t even notice the potential that lies behind all the bullshit and trauma we carry around!!
Out of fear, out of discomfort, out of pain, one is born anew. Different.
And a more joyful you!
And speaking of fears and discomforts - how scary isn't hitchiking or picking up a hitchiker, for many nowadays?! Haha, even there it might be a challenge.
I have faced so many challenges on my travels this summer, but more on that later when I can gather my thoughts.
Right now I’m back in Stockholm teaching circus to kids and doing some gigs and modeling, trying to enjoy a bit of “calm life” before the next big thing.
Have a beautiful day,
Love and dance <3
P.S. If you’re reading this, man who gave me a ride (since I did give you my card), make sure you make the most of your life while you can.
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