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At my application to Malmö Theatre Univerity, I was in the warm-up room a few minutes before. Another girl practicing in there read her monologue, and I complemented her on it.
It was about why women throw balls so silly and weak, why can’t they take after their brothers and fathers?
I mentioned that my monologue is exactly opposite; she laughed.. “Oh, like, I’m a women and I suck? That’s what we try to GET AWAY from!”
Actually, my monologue was about unhappy love, grief, and obsession.
However something about this girls theatre piece struck a thought…
In the text, she mentions: “There must be some function to girls throwing the ball so weak, with no effort, and then giggling about it?”
And yes, I think there is.
It is not what most people would think – that girls/women are taught to be weak and incapable, so a strong boy or man can come in and save the day/score the ball!
But rather, the truth lays beneath it, masquerading as patriarchy.
The truth is that women are in some ways superior, or, rather, different to men. We are, indeed, all different!
In addition, in our many creative, wise ways, our true feminine nature can be threatening to the masculine, especially the immature, insecure masculine. So we are taught by our mothers and fathers, grandparents and neighbours that “boys don’t like strong girls”, and therefore you must be less than you truly are, in order to not be alone. When in reality we make ourselves less than we are (not just women – MOST PEOPLE in fact!!) in order for other people not be intimidated by us; so other people may feel needed, and worthy of us.
It's very possible for a girl to throw a ball without losing her feminine grace; feminine does not mean weak, it never has! But if boys are intimidated by girls throwing balls further than some, it's their trigger, their thing to deal with and their parents to teach them.
And then, it's also about how you define strength or weakness.
It really is counter-productive to evolution of man and womankind; instead of being our full amazing selves so that we may intimidate, inspire and motivate others to do the same (spread their wings, blossom like a flower, whatever metaphor you want), we make ourselves lesser, in order to not be alone. So someone else can feel they’re on our level. We will indeed be chronically unhappy if we continue living this lie, or like most people, get used to it as the regular thing, and find a bunch of amazing excuses not to be your full self, that will sound completely logical and sensible to the uncritical ear.
Oh, and let’s not forget; much of this will look like patriarchy, when in fact, it is the women that imprison them(our)selves, in order to not scare men away. Mothers imprison daughters, friends imprison each other with advice, magazines, clothing and cosmetics make money off of you not being as awesome as you are... you get the picture.
What would happen if all of us ladies, collectively owned our raw feminine nature, those of us that truly want to embrace it?!
Men would either have to step up to match that vibration, or fall off the wagon.
But don’t be afraid of being alone; I’m sure they will be up for the challenge. <3
And if they’re not, consider moving to another country.
Love and dance,
WELCOME to my workshop in Stockholm - saturday the 2nd of February!
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